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Why We Don’t Say “Giving Up for Adoption”

By Terrance J Stewart

A century or more ago, the term “give up for adoption” may have fit into the way adoption worked at that time. However, we have made adjustments since then. Many people still today believe in the stigma around adoption. It does not fully explain how the actual adoption process works. And even worse is the negative feeling it leaves in your mind. By saying “giving up for adoption,” the amount of love such a decision takes gets lost. Adoption Choices of Arizona can guide you through your options and demystify some of the language surrounding adoption.

Practicing Positive Adoption Language

There is an automatically negative connotation most people think of when hearing it. Giving up is something you reserve for New Year’s resolutions and bad habits. However, it does not apply to adoption; placing a child for adoption is an act of courage.

As language evolves, we have replaced outdated terms with ones that speak more directly to the truth of adoption. Today, a better choice of wording is “making an adoption plan.” Instead, you are creating a plan for the future of your child. It is a choice that requires selflessness and an incredible amount of love. An adoption agency can help make that plan a reality.  

Changing the language used to discuss adoption is important. Another step in that is to use the phrase “place a child.” It removes some of the stigmas that have naturally evolved in “putting up a child.” When you make the change in thinking, placing a child does more to encompass the gentle and loving choice of adoption. 

Resources and Compassion at Adoption Choices of Arizona

When you choose adoption, you are not giving up. Quite the opposite, in fact. You are showing a tremendous amount of selflessness and the way you discuss it should reflect it. Adoption Choices of Arizona can offer solutions to situations you may not have even thought of when it comes to adoption. During such an overwhelming time of decision, knowing you have one place to find all the resources you need can help. The entire process becomes easier and infinitely simpler when you do not feel distressed by the terms. There are plenty of amazing families seeking adoption and there should be nothing negative about the experience. 

A licensed adoption agency can be a vital link in that chain. Adoption Choices of Arizona will be there to help and together, you can make a plan for both you and your child.

Embracing the Strength and Choice of Adoption

If the topic of adoption is being discussed, the last thing that should be on your mind is “giving up.” These words do more harm than good and do not sufficiently cover the qualities of the adoption process. There are many choices to be made when it comes to unplanned pregnancy. But, with the right adoption agency, those choices do not have to feel like everything is outside of your control. Adoption Choices of Arizona can help you when you are looking to choose life through adoption.

Ready to explore your adoption options and find the one that feels right for you? Contact Adoption Choices of Arizona today for a free consultation and let us guide you on your journey.


  •  “Open Your Heart and Your Home.” Arizona Department of Child Safety, dcs.az.gov/adoption.