Adoption Fears: How to Overcome Your Concerns
By Megan Kostraba
Choosing adoption can be really scary for a woman. No matter what age you are, if you’re an experienced parent or going through an unplanned pregnancy—adoption is intimidating. It’s always an option for you, but not an easy one. There are so many factors in your life that will influence your choice of placing your baby up for adoption; we get it. Regardless of what stage you are at on your pregnancy journey, we understand that new fears will continue to arise. At Adoption Choices of Arizona, it is our priority to ensure you about your adoption plan and have answers for all of the unknowns that follow any pregnancy.
We work with expectant women all over Arizona and help birth mothers create the adoption plan that suits them. With our teams of professionals and specialists, we can guide you through the adoption process and help you understand the steps you are about to take. All of your fears and concerns are important and heeded, and we will work to ensure that you feel comfortable and confident in your adoption.
Guidance Through the Adoption Process: Your Concerns Are Important
When you begin your adoption process alongside an agency, it means that we will be with you every step of the way. We want to assure you that, before you even begin the adoption process, you are not going through this alone. Countless women have had unplanned pregnancies, and it will continue to happen as time goes on. No matter the reason for placing your baby up for adoption, we understand you, and we will support you! We never want you to feel alone during any stage—we are here to offer help during your pregnancy.
Your fears and concerns about adoption are not unnoticed. Many women go into adoption having many questions—most birth mothers aren’t sure where the process even begins or where it goes. Some common fears/concerns birth mothers have include:
- How do I even start?
- Am I making the right choice for my child?
- Am I giving up on my cold by choosing adoption?
- Regretting placing their child up for adoption
- Handling legal paperwork
When you work with an adoption specialist, they will create the adoption plan that best suits your needs. This is the very first step of the process that will eventually lead you into everything else that follows. Your specialist will help you choose the option that is best for you and your family—adoption or a different alternative. Our goal is to make sure that you feel comfortable and confident with your choice; this is something that takes time.
Birth mothers have to allow themselves to heal during the entire adoption process—before, during, and after. Choosing adoption is hard enough already, and combined with all of the factors of being pregnant, it can be a lot for one person to handle. We want you to feel at peace with your decision. Feeling regretful, guilty, and even indecisive about choosing adoption is absolutely normal. Making a big decision like this doesn’t come easy for everyone. Many birth mothers choose adoption for unique reasons, whether it be financial or medical issues, unsupportive family members, or other personal goals.
What’s important to remember is that a birth mother ultimately chooses adoption because they want their child to have opportunities in life that they may not be able to provide. This does not make you a failure—by choosing adoption, you are choosing the option best suited for your child and their future. You are not giving up on your child by placing them up for adoption, but rather, you are doing what you can to give them a better life.
Our adoption agencies in Arizona are there for you to reach out to, at any time, for any questions and concerns regarding adoption.
Common Fears that Follow Adoption
Once you’ve chosen the adoption route and feel confident in your choice, there can still be fears to face down the road. Some of those may include:
- Wondering if/how you can bond with your child
- Feeling like your child won’t want to talk to you
- Having a relationship with an adoptive family
- What happens after I give birth?
The great thing about working with an adoption agency near you is that you get to make all of the decisions. That means whatever type of adoption you want, the kind of relationship you have with the adoptive family; all of it is decided by you. Our professionals can aid you in making these choices, too. We understand that it can be overwhelming! The purpose of your adoption plan is to make all of these decisions ahead of time so that later on during your pregnancy, you no longer have to worry about it.
Adoption Choices of Arizona will be there for you before, during, and after your pregnancy. We can help you answer all of the unknowns you have about adoption and pregnancy in general. We know that the entire process can look intimidating—we get it! Choosing adoption is scary. But it’s also a wonderful experience for birth mothers and adoptive families. We all want the same goal—for your child to live with loving and caring people. Our adoption agencies in Arizona are there for you; reach out to us for help on your adoption journey.
