What if I Don’t Want Counseling After the Adoption Process?
By Isabelle Sitchon
Adoption can be a stressful, exhausting process. As a birth mother, the responsibility of setting up an adoption plan, choosing the adoptive family, and giving birth can take a toll on you. Some birth mothers will need additional support after their adoption journey to process their feelings and experiences. Others may want to place their baby for adoption and continue forward without looking back.
If you are a birth mother feeling the latter response, we want you to know that it is okay to feel this way. Our adoption agencies in Arizona offer as little or as much support to the birth mother as she needs. This doesn’t mean that you have to accept all of them.
If you need adoption help now, please call or text us at 1-480-900-5520 or visit us at Adoption Choices of Arizona.
What Support Can Adoption Choices of Arizona Offer to Birth Mothers?
In the adoption process, the birth mother will be offered multiple types of assistance. This can include medical/financial support, a legal attorney, housing/transportation, and counseling services. When you work with Adoption Choices of Arizona, we will work with you on getting these resources if needed. In addition, birth mothers may participate in counseling during or after their adoption journey. However, you might not need all these resources, which is completely okay.
What matters most in your adoption process is the safety of yourself and your baby. We want you to be comfortable in your experience to trust your decision-making. Our specialists focus on providing what the birth mother believes is best for her, and that may not include support through counseling. You may have other forms of support that can help you cope post-adoption. In other situations, the birth mother is putting her child up for adoption and doesn’t want to think too much about it afterward. Each mother’s experience is different, but all are valid in their reasoning.
Why Do Birth Mothers Seek Counseling After Adoption?
The adoption process can be an emotional and life-changing journey. Dealing with pregnancy while sorting out an adoption plan and legal processes is quite difficult–and it may prove even harder considering her circumstances. After her baby is placed with the adoptive family, she might find it hard to return to her normal routines. She may feel defeated knowing that she chose adoption because she would be unable to give her child her best life. Although her baby will be in the arms of a loving family, she may also feel grief and sorrow. Out of many options, some birth mothers seek counseling to process their experiences and emotions healthily.
Can I Still Choose Counseling Even if I Don’t Want it Now?
It’s okay for you to opt-out of counseling services post-placement. However, if you find it overly difficult to return to a normal life again, we encourage you to seek professional help. The stages of grief can be a confusing and challenging battle to face alone.
With our Arizona adoption agencies, we are happy to offer you our support services. It can be difficult to cope with the aftermath of an adoption. Therefore, we advise our birth mothers to choose counseling during and after adoption. You are not alone in this journey; we are ready to provide you with the support you need. Our specialists can talk to you more about our resources and counseling options for birth mothers looking for support after the adoption.
Encouragement to Birth Mothers After an Adoption
For a birth mother, going through an adoption journey can feel like giving up. However, we want all mothers to know this is not the case. Each individual has their reasons for choosing adoption. One mother may be considering placement because she is facing financial problems. Another mother may feel she is not ready to take care of a baby yet. No matter what reason, we believe that all birth mothers have the option of adoption. Placing your baby for adoption doesn’t mean that you are giving up.
If you are looking for post-placement resources or want to know how to give a baby up for adoption, we encourage you to reach out to us. For adoption resources or to begin your adoption journey, birth parents can visit us at Adoption Choices of Arizona or call or text us at 1-480-900-5520. If you are a prospective adoptive family hoping to adopt a baby, please instead visit us here!
