Will I Feel Guilty for Placing My Baby for Adoption?
By Jacob LaBau
Unexpected pregnancies are difficult and can be even harder if the birth mother is not ready to raise that baby. Whatever the reasoning, a birth mother’s decision to pursue adoption is completely valid, and you are not a bad person. We at Adoption Choices of Arizona want you to make the best possible decision for your child. If that decision means raising that child yourself, we will support your decision. Adoption Choices of Arizona offers a free consultation for pregnant moms and birth mothers considering adoption for their baby. Find out more on how to give a baby up for adoption to see if it is right for you!
Reasons for Choosing Adoption
One of the biggest reasons for choosing adoption is a lack of financial security. It costs a great deal of money to raise a child in the United States. According to Bankrate, “the average cost of raising a child through the age of 17 is over $200,000.” That does not include future education fees, such as college or career advancement opportunities after high school. An adoptive family can take the reins from you if you do not have a steady income or savings. Open adoption allows you to choose the family that adopts your baby. Explore financially stable adoptive families ready to give your child endless love.
Another reason for choosing adoption in Arizona is to provide a loving family for your baby. Your pregnancy may have come as a surprise, leaving you by yourself to raise the baby. Adoption is a great alternative for birth mothers who don’t feel prepared to become a parent. There are thousands of families anxiously waiting to meet you. All adoptive families undergo background checks, home studies, and fingerprint scans. Choosing the adoptive family is entirely up to you. Understand the adoption process and continue meeting prospective families until you find the perfect one.
The final reason for choosing adoption is wanting to have a life for yourself. You may be young, either finishing up high school or trying to get through college. Having a baby and caring for a said baby takes a lot of time and effort. Two things that you may not be able to commit to. Choosing adoption will allow you the freedom to pursue anything you want in life. Go travel, finish up school, have fun, and experience life! Start an adoption plan at one of the seven adoption agencies in Arizona today!
There are hundreds of reasons to choose adoption and several reasons not to pursue adoption. Whatever your reasoning might be, we support your decision. It is your choice at the end of the day. Follow your heart and do what is best for you!
Adoption Guilt for Birth Mothers
When choosing adoption, you may experience guilt for putting a child up for adoption. One day, you may decide to have a family of your own, which only adds to the guilt of adoption. It is important to remind yourself why you chose adoption for your child constantly. Your baby is in the hands of an adoptive family who is eternally grateful for your sacrifice. Choose an open adoption with the adoptive family to ensure that you know how your child is doing in life.
Once your child is of age to contact you without permission from the adoptive family, attempt to locate them, chances are that your child will understanding why they were put up for adoption. This is a great way to get closure and stop feeling guilty about pursuing adoption. An overwhelming majority of adopted children adore their adoptive family and are thankful that you chose adoption. Placing your baby for adoption is not a bad thing by any means. Contact an adoption specialist to begin chopping away at your adoption plan.
Resources for Birth Mothers
There are two emotional-support options available for birth mothers during adoption and post-placement! The first option is counseling: one-on-one with a licensed therapist who will guide you through your emotions. A second option is a support group: scheduled meetings with fellow birth mothers who share their adoption experiences. Each option has its benefits. Try out each one of them and see which one has the biggest impact on your emotional well-being.
Aside from mental health resources, adoption agencies in Arizona can offer personalized help and financial assistance. Every state has different laws set in place that determine how much financial assistance you are eligible for. Fortunately, Arizona is one of the states where you can receive large sums of money during your pregnancy. Some examples of things that we can help with are our rent and utilities, food, transportation, medical care, and much more! Adoption can sound quite daunting, but do not worry. Your adoption specialist will take care of your needs. If you have any questions, address them as soon as possible! All they want to do is help you!
It Is Going to Be Okay
Take it easy on yourself! Your child is being cherished by the adoptive family just like you would. By agreeing to open communication post-placement, you will see that love for yourself through videos and meetings with the family. If you are a pregnant birth mother and want to know more about what we can do to help or begin your adoption journey, birth parents can visit us at Adoption Choices of Arizona or call or text us at 1-480-900-5520. If you are a prospective adoptive family hoping to adopt a baby, please instead visit us here!
Citations: Sleight, Mandy. “Cost of Raising a Child.” Bankrate.