What I Learned When Placing My Baby Up for Adoption in Arizona
Are you experiencing an unplanned pregnancy? Are you unsure of what to do and how to understand all of your options? Don’t worry. I was in your shoes not too long ago. I became pregnant unexpectedly, and I felt overwhelmed with emotions. I was scared and worried about what to do next. Once I frantically started searching the web, trying to understand all my options. I was not sure terminating my pregnancy was my option, so I looked for other options. I was considering placing my baby up for adoption and that’s when I found Adoption Choices of Arizona.
Even after looking further into adoption, I was still unsure and nervous about what others might think. However, I knew I was not in the right space, mentally or physically, to raise a child. I decided to contact Arizona adoption agencies to get a better-informed idea of the adoption process. Even after finally settling on the decision to choose adoption, I was still nervous about the entire process. I am going to tell you what I was told when I was in your shoes: it is okay, and it is normal to experience the emotions you are feeling, and you are so strong.
Giving My Baby Up for Adoption in Arizona
At first, it seemed scary to put my baby up for adoption, but it did take time for me to get comfortable with the whole adoption process in Arizona. However, Adoption Choices of Arizona went above and beyond to make sure I received the utmost care and support. I had to learn a few things when placing my baby up for adoption: the process and where to start. There are many steps when it comes to adoption in Arizona, starting with contacting an adoption agency. After that, it was meetings and paperwork and searching for adoptive families. That’s right, you heard me. You get to choose the adoptive family! Personally, learning that was a huge weight off my shoulders. It made me feel better knowing that I had control over who would raise my child.
After choosing the adoptive family for my child, I wanted to take an extra step and arrange a meeting with them. I wanted to get to know them more personally instead of just looking at their application. In my opinion, anyone can make themselves look good on paper, so it made me feel more comfortable speaking with them in person and getting to know them better.
Choosing My Preferences
I believe the most important part is choosing an adoptive family and matching it with one that fits best with my needs. When I chose adoption, it wasn’t because I didn’t want my child. It was because I knew they deserved better than what I could give them at the time. After talking with Adoption Choices of Arizona and explaining my reasoning for choosing adoption, they informed me of the different types of adoption: open, semi-open, and closed. Immediately, I asked what they believed would best fit my needs, and they explained open adoption to me. With open adoption, I am able to remain in my child’s life until they are of adult age and they can make their own life decisions. I knew immediately that I wanted to have an open adoption because I already had a connection with my child, and I wanted to see that connection develop.
There are plenty of other preferences that I had to choose after I chose the type of adoption. I had to take many factors into consideration. Did I want the adoptive family to already have children or be first-time parents? Did I care what religion they brought my child up in? Did I care about their sexual preferences or gender identity? While these are all factors to consider, I mostly just wanted my child to be loved unconditionally and to be given the world.
The Birth of My Child
As it got closer to my due date, I began to worry a little more and question all my decisions. I am here to tell you that it is completely normal and understandable. Your body is undergoing a lot of trauma, and your hormones are off the charts. I had to keep reminding myself that I made all the decisions on my own and with valuable information. I learned a lot through this process, and I could not have done it without the help and support of Adoption Choices of Arizona.
For adoption resources or to begin your adoption journey, birth parents can visit us at Adoption Choices of Arizona or call or text us at 1-480-900-5520. If you are a prospective adoptive family hoping to adopt a baby, please instead, visit us here!
Meet the Author: Gabriella Dobson was born and raised in Ohio. She is currently a senior at Miami University majoring in professional writing with a focus on editing. She also minors in criminology and general business. She is a skilled barista and enjoys sipping her coffee with a good book in her hand. She is passionate about helping others and making a difference in the lives around her. With her involvement in St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital and Women Helping Women, she is able to provide resources for those in need of support.