What if the Adoptive Family Doesn’t Like My Baby?
As a birth mother, it may be difficult to imagine another family taking care of your child. We get it: you don’t even know the family that’s adopting your baby! Will the family just be perfect strangers? What sorts of information do you get to learn about the adoptive family? Are adoptive families just anybody, or are there some sorts of requirements for them? Adoption Choices of Arizona has been working with mothers for years with these exact concerns. Here are just a few of the ways you can be sure that the adoptive family will love and accept your child.
Choosing a Type of Adoption
Adoption Choices of Arizona offers open adoptions, semi-open adoptions, and closed adoptions. If you choose an open adoption, you get to learn the most about the adoptive family. You share identifiable information such as phone numbers and names. You stay in contact with the adoptive family and can even choose to have in-person visits to see your child after the pregnancy. If getting to see your child after the Arizona adoption process helps ease your mind, this is the choice for you.
If you choose a semi-open adoption, there’s usually less identifying information shared. There is less face-to-face interaction both pre and post-birth. However, the adoptive family can still send you pictures and letters to update you on your child’s life.
In a closed adoption, the birth mother and adoptive family know very little about each other. You can learn some information about the adoptive family, but they likely won’t know you. These are the least common for domestic adoptions, but we still leave the right to choose to you.
Learning More About the Adoptive Family
Once you start your Arizona adoption plan, we are able to show you options for the adoptive family who will adopt your child. You can learn about the parents and if they have any other children. Each family also has an adorable flipbook with the family’s story and pictures of them together. Here, you can also learn a bit more about their values and parenting styles.
The Process to Become an Adoptive Family
Adoptive families must meet a variety of requirements to work with an adoption agency in Arizona. The most significant of these requirements is the AZ adoption home study. A home study is a comprehensive look at a family by local social services to make sure the family is ready to adopt. In the first phase, documentation is gathered. Members need to have their IDs, birth certificates, and other important documents in order. They also must have their taxes done, and health care records ready to make sure they’re fiscally and physically ready to adopt. The family also undergoes a background check to make sure there’s no indication the parents are unable to raise children.
During the home study itself, the house or apartment is also checked for a variety of safety features. Smoke detectors, first aid kits, fire extinguishers, and window locks are common features checked for during a home study. Another important pillar of the home study is the interview with the family. Either a social worker or a member of a home study organization will interview the parents to confirm that they are truly ready to adopt a child.
Adoptive Families Love the Same
We understand that it might be difficult to imagine caring for a child that you aren’t related to. But the experiences of adopted children and parents show that adoptive families have lots of love to give. Sometimes children who are adopted even choose to become adoptive parents when they grow up. Plus, all adoptive parents have made a deliberate choice to have a child. So when you learn more about the families, you may be surprised by their enthusiasm to become parents.
How to Know the Adoptive Family will Care for your Child
When you look for unplanned pregnancy help, adoption may seem like the most uncertain choice. Adoption Choices of Arizona wants to show you that all of our adoptive families are loving and prepared to have children. As we help you build your adoption plan, you can talk to and choose the adoptive family you would like to raise your child. No matter the family, they have all passed the state and federal requirements for adoption. If adoption sounds like a good option for you, contact us anytime to learn more today!
For adoption resources or to begin your adoption journey, birth parents can visit us at Adoption Choices of Arizona or call or text us at 1-480-900-5520. If you are a prospective adoptive family hoping to adopt a baby, please instead, visit us here!
Meet the author: Joshua Boulet is an aspiring journalist and writer with a particular fondness for research and social sciences. He loves music, writing, reading, video games and most art, and anything creative he can get his hands on. Boulet believes that there’s too much good stuff out there and not enough time to see it all. He grew up on video games: the classic Sonic the Hedgehog games, Mario Kart, Marvel Ultimate Alliance, and Legend of Zelda. The music of rhythm games led him to an interest in that, and the investigative journalism of Jason Schreier inspired him to discover the importance of journalism as an industry. That interest in developers’ lives led him to an interest in social justice and how the world could maybe be made into a better place. “All this to say, there is certainly a line I can draw between me obsessively playing Sonic the Hedgehog 2 and me interviewing my sociology professor about how to read academic articles. Those surprising through lines fascinate me all the same. At my best, I’m a person who gets to be constantly fascinated by the lives and work of other people.”
His favorite quote is from his favorite jazz musician:
“A genius is the one most like himself” – Thelonious Monk.