5 Positive Feelings to Expect after Placing Your Baby for Adoption
As a birth mother who is considering placing her baby for adoption, you should expect to feel many different emotions as the adoption process moves along. For starters, your brave and emotional decision to allow your baby to be raised and cared for by another family comes with feelings you may not have expected. Though it might be easy for you to focus on your negative emotions, it is important for you to recognize the pleasant feelings that could come out of placing your baby for adoption. Paying attention to the joyous emotions will not only help prepare you for the adoption, but also assist you in moving forward with life afterwards.
Thankfully, Adoption Choices of Arizona is here to help you prepare yourself and understand your feelings. The more time you have to process your feelings towards the adoption, the more time you will have to begin planning for your future. We have composed this resource of positive feelings to expect to feel after placing your baby for adoption.
For nine months, you’ve felt your baby grow and develop inside of you. You and your adoption caseworker might have worked hard together to find the best adoptive family for your child. After your baby is born, it’s possible you will say your goodbyes and witness your adoptive family become parents to your baby. Even though you are considering placing your baby for adoption, it’s possible you might have formed a bond you will always share with him or her.
Even though you are likely to feel sad once your child is no longer in your arms, you might also expect to feel an overwhelming sense of relief. You went through the nine months of pregnancy, childbirth, and completing the adoption process. Now you are able to begin to heal and experience comfort! Your adoption journey prevented difficulties to yours and your child’s future, and ensured both of you health, happiness and safety. Knowing this might shower you with a sense of relief.
As you went through the adoption process and placed your baby for adoption, it’s only natural if you experienced a great deal of stress and concern. Now that that’s in the past, however, you can relax and enjoy feeling calm and serene. Knowing your baby is being taken care of by a family who will provide everything he or she needs to live a loving and protected life could help you give you peace of mind as you accept your new life. You no longer need to fear for yours or your child’s future.
There’s no doubt you care for and adore your child. No doubt that you wanted them to be properly taken care of. The assurance that your child has the life you envision for them. You made that happen by going through the adoption process. By selecting his or her adoptive parents. Now you know, without a shadow of a doubt, that he or she will be loved and cared for. Allow this realization to bring you a happiness you might not have expected.
If you are unable to afford to care for your child, allow yourself to be glad he or she will not grow up worried about finances. If you wish to start a new chapter in your life, you can have the joy of knowing the life of your adoptive family is properly aligned with your child’s. If you no longer have the assistance of a romantic partner, having the knowledge that your adoptive family is loving and stable will allow you to feel much delight.
Knowing you might not be able to provide your child with the life and care they deserve can cause you to feel guilty for choosing adoption as the final option. But it could help to remember why you’re making this decision in the first place. Once you recognize these reasons, you can let go of your guilt and forgive yourself. It might also help you to remember that, though difficult, choosing adoption for your child is one of the most responsible choices any birth mother could make.
Though placing your baby for adoption is an emotional and difficult choice, you are likely to feel a burst of enthusiasm once the adoption is finalized. Once you have allowed yourself time to grieve and move forward with your life, you can participate in activities you have always considered. Maybe you are now able to return to school and expand your education. You might see yourself ready to once again pursue a romantic relationship. You could see this as the time to begin a new job or career. It’s possible you will be able to purchase the new home or vehicle you always dreamt about.
Sometimes, making an emotional decision can lead to excitement, love, and enthusiasm.
Focus on Strengthening Your Future after Placing Your Baby for Adoption
Just because you might have found yourself pregnant and unable to care for your child once he or she is born, does not necessarily mean there are no positive feelings to expect after placing your baby for adoption. Something you could benefit from knowing is that once your child is placed with their adoptive family, you will be able to focus on making a better future for yourself. This might be the chance for you to work towards becoming the woman your child will be proud of.
For adoption resources or to begin your adoption journey, birth parents can visit us at Adoption Choices of Arizona or call or text us at 1-480-900-5520. If you are an prospective adoptive family hoping to adopt a baby, please instead, visit us here!
Meet the author: Amanda Glover is a recent graduate from Savannah College of Art & Design in Atlanta, Georgia. She has earned her Bachelor’s of Fine Arts in Writing. Amanda is currently editing her first novel. Besides being a published novelist, her dreams include singing in a musical, becoming a figure skater, and traveling to Europe.
When she is not writing, she is reading a good romance or suspense book, painting a landscape on canvas, watching a comedy or thriller, or spending time with her friends and family. She loves fashion, books, music, pets, and all things Whimsical. Amanda currently lives in Decatur, Georgia.