Choosing Your Child’s Adoptive Parents in Arizona with Adoption Agency
Adoption has given many people a chance to build their own families. However, as a birth mother, how do you know if a prospective adoptive family is right for your child? Adoption is not a one size fits all plan. Only you know what is best for your child, including the family who will change their future.
As you begin to make one of the biggest decisions of your adoption journey, please know that we here at Adoption Choices of Arizona are here to support you. While you are the only one who will have the final say in your child’s future, we have compiled a list of factors to consider when choosing your child’s adoptive family.
Personalities and Environment
Who a child grows up to be is not determined by genetics alone. A child’s future is determined by the environment they grow up in and the people they are surrounded by. When considering an adoptive family, think about how you want your child to grow up. What do you want them immersed in? Do you picture them with an extroverted family or an introverted family? A family who loves the outdoors or a family with a passion for the arts? Maybe the family is a mix of personalities. Will your child be loved by a large family or have an intimate connection with a small family?
Additionally, when choosing your child’s adoptive family, make sure you explain your desired outcome of the adoption clearly. Take time to explain what type of environment you want your child to live in. Be sure that your chosen adoptive family is receptive of your wishes.
Feedback and Advice
You need to have a support system as you consider life-changing decisions. Your adoption caseworker is here to support you every step of the way. At Adoption Choices of Arizona, all of our caseworkers have facilitated numerous successful adoptions and know what qualities are best in an adoptive family.
To gain further feedback or advice, talk to supportive family members and friends within your social circle. While you are ultimately the only one who can decide what is best, it never hurts to ask for their insight. Listening to what others have to say can bring forth an alternate perspective that could cause you to consider something you had not thought of before. Additionally, having outside support can enable you to better organize your thoughts and make clearer decisions.
Trust your Gut
When choosing your child’s adoptive family, trust your gut. While you may not be ready to be a parent, that does not mean that your maternal instincts are non-existent. Even if you don’t realize it, every expectant mother has a sixth sense to protect her child. If a situation or prospective adoptive family makes you feel awkward or uneasy, steer away from them. Your first instinct is usually always right. Instead, choose the adoptive family that makes you feel the most comfortable. If they make you feel comfortable, it is very likely that they will be a good fit for your child.
Take your Time
In the end, when choosing who will raise your child, take your time. While you may not have all the time in the world, don’t rush yourself. The quicker you rush into something, the more likely you are to regret it. Be sure to evaluate all your options thoroughly. Consult qualified professionals and your most trusted friends. Trust yourself and your feelings. You are capable of making the right decision.
For adoption resources or to begin your adoption journey, birth parents can visit us at Adoption Choices of Arizona or call or text us at 1-480-900-5520. If you are an prospective adoptive family hoping to adopt a baby, please instead, visit us here!
Meet the Author: Grace Myers is a sophomore Digital Media major at North Greenville University As a firm believer that every individual has a story to tell, and a right to be properly represented, she loves meeting new people and learning their stories.
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