Who is a Birth Father?
In the adoption process, there is much mystery surrounding the birth father. More times than not, he is a faceless entity in the background and all of the attention centers around the birth mother, baby and prospective adoptive parents. However, without the presence of the birth father, the child being placed for adoption wouldn’t exist.
Adoption Choices of Arizona understands and acknowledges that the birth father is just as essential to the adoption journey as the birth mother. He is, after all, included in the adoption triad under “birth parents.” So, we want to shed more light on who a birth father is and his involvement in the adoption process.
The Definition of Birth Father
To begin, let’s explore the question: Who is a birth father? While the answer may seem simple, it is complex at the same time. On one hand is the standard definition of a birth father: the biological father of a child, usually a child who has been placed for adoption.
Yet, on another level, a birth father is so much more. It takes a true man to realize that adoption is the best way to give his son or daughter the best possible future. So, besides being part of creating a new life, a birth father who has placed his infant for adoption is someone who selflessly wants what is best for their baby.
Is a Birth Father Still a Father?
If you are a birth father considering adoption, you may be questioning your status as a parent. Does placing your baby for adoption make you less of a father? Can you still consider yourself a father?
At Adoption Choices of Arizona, we wholeheartedly believe that you still are a father. That nothing can change that. You are no less important than the birth mom. In many cases, the choice to choose adoption is as much your decision as it is hers. While you may not be as connected to the baby as the mother, the baby is still part of you and your life. You have watched him or her grow in your partner’s womb and were there for the birth and delivery.
A True Father is Loving and Selfless
While you may not be a parent in the traditional sense of the word, the title of father isn’t just given by biology. Rather, fatherhood is given to someone who truly cares for his child. Someone who is loving, selfless and puts the needs of your child before your own. Who always keeps your child’s best interests at heart. Even when this means you aren’t the best person to raise him or her.
To the Birth Father Considering Adoption
A true father is someone who is willing to make a loving and selfless decision in favor of providing their baby with the best possible future. Are you a birth father considering adoption? At Adoption Choices of Arizona, we recognize that not all birth fathers are involved in the adoption process. Each and every birth father is unique. However, if you are a birth father choosing to place your baby for adoption, we are here to support you as you and your partner consider adoption.
Meet the Author: Grace Myers is a sophomore Digital Media major at North Greenville University, excited to work with Adoption Choices over the next couple of months. As a firm believer that every individual has a story to tell, and a right to be properly represented, she loves meeting new people and learning their stories.
When she’s not writing, you can find her listening to music or cuddling with her dog, Sundae.