Frequently Asked Questions for Birth Fathers
Oftentimes when people envision the adoption process, birth fathers are left out of the picture. However, birth fathers can play an integral part in the outcome. If you’re a birth father struggling to get your questions answered about the adoption process, we at Adoption Choices of Arizona have you covered. Here are some of the most frequently asked questions about a day in the life of a birth father.
Will my healing process be different than the birth mother’s?
The healing process is different for everyone, and there may be days when you and the birth mother don’t know how to properly comfort one another. You’ll be quick to find out that you will both undergo distinct experiences, which could result in pushing each other away. Despite how hard it may be, it’s OK. What’s meant to come back together always does, and this hump in the road is one that will inevitably be passed over.
How do I prove to the birth mother that I’m here for her and the baby?
The best way to prove something is always to openly show it. If you’re undertaking an open adoption, be open with the birth mother and adoptive parents, reassuring them you’re ready for anything they may need. Be sure to make it known that you will contribute whatever is asked and then some. If you’re dealing with a closed adoption, remind the birth mother that you are prepared to help her mend.
Will the adoptive parents talk to the birth mother more than me?
Since birth mothers seemingly get notice when it comes to adoption, it’s important to be upfront to the adoptive parents and let them know you want to be as much a part of this as the birth mother. Asserting yourself can show just how much it means to you. It may not seem fair that you have to do that, but if it helps, it’s worth the strain.
As a birth father, you may not feel as noticed or important — but you are. You will have many more questions in the coming days, and you may experience rough patches, but making the right choice in adoption will pay off eventually.
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Birth Father Important Role
How Birth Father affects the adoption process
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