The adoption journey can be a physical, emotional, and financial roller coaster. Adoption can be uncertain, frustrating, and exciting all at the same time. Although there is infinitely more to the adoption process than home studies, paperwork, doctor visits, and adoption meetings, even after the adoption is finalized, there are still things that you should take care of – both birth parents AND adoptive parents.
Here is a short list of things to do after adoption finalization that will give you peace of mind and financial security.
Recover! No matter how you gave birth, the first six weeks postpartum are considered a “recovery” period. Your body has been stretched and stressed to the max, and it needs a chance to regroup. Keep your follow-up doctor appointments and take care of yourself!
Follow through with your adoption plans. If you chose a semi-open or open adoption, follow through with a call, letter, or quick message to the adoptive family. Find out how everyone is adjusting to the new baby.
Seek counseling. You may be feeling blue both due to the enormity of the adoption and typical postpartum blues. Do not hesitate to call your adoption specialists. Reach out to the community, support groups, or online adoption forums.
Keep your child close to you. Like any relationship, connecting with your adopted child will require time and consistency. For infants and toddlers, keep them especially close to you so they feel safe and comfortable. Snuggling, co-sleeping, and putting them in a sling are a few options to consider. For older kids, sports, games, and other fun activities are a great way to bond and build trust.
Create or update your will. This is a top priority after you adopt a child and one of the best personal finance decisions you can make.
Seek counseling. You may be feeling blue both due to the enormity of the adoption as well! Do not hesitate to call your adoption specialists. Reach out to the community, support groups, or online adoption forums.
And finally, follow through with our adoption plans and openness as well. Contact the birth mother, send pictures, and check on her!