Facing an unplanned pregnancy is scary and the ‘what to do’ can be daunting! Depending on the circumstances, this experience can feel more like an emergency as opposed to a blessing. As difficult as facing the facts of an unwanted pregnancy are, deciding what you’re going to do about your situation is even harder. You basically have 3 options: adoption, parenting, and depending on how far along you are, terminating your pregnancy.
Adoption is a popular choice for women to want to give their unborn child a chance at life. Although popular, this avenue poses pros and cons that require serious consideration. Let’s consider a few popular pros and cons of adoption:
The Pros of Adoption
- You Know Your Child Is in Good Hands – In order for parents to adopt in the United States, they must undergo a strict process which includes a home study. Because of this, women wishing to give their child up for adoption will have peace of mind knowing their child is in a stable, safe, home.
- You Could Have Contact With Your Baby – Open adoption or a semi-open adoption is an option with Adoption Choices of Arizona. Open adoption is a form of adoption that allows birth parents to know and have contact with the adoptive family and child.
- You Can Improve Your Life – Having a baby, planned or unplanned, can make achieving future goals difficult. When you make the decision to give your child up for adoption, you’re paving the way for greater opportunities. Maybe you’ll finish college or be able to focus on your career!
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The Cons of Adoption
- Potential Psychological Issues – Giving away a child that you’ve carried for nine months doesn’t come easy. Many mothers report feelings of depression, anxiety, and even PTSD after the adoption process. This, in conjunction with postpartum, can make the transition from motherhood to adoption difficult.
- Lack of Contact – Although open adoption allows the mother to have contact with her child under supervised settings, “closed” adoptions do not. Many women who want to stay in touch with their child may feel a sense of disconnect if they go through with a closed adoption. Not being able to see their child grow over time surely leads to feelings of concern, as well as difficult emotions to process.
- Feelings of Regret – Choosing to place your child for adoption may seem like the best choice initially – perhaps even years after your child is born and placed with a family. However, that doesn’t mean your position may change over time. It’s important to be aware that your emotions could change and you may feel regret down the line. However, it’s impossible to know the future; you can only make your decision based on what you know and feel now.
When you’re making your decision regarding adoption, it’s vital that you keep the needs of your child at the forefront. Make a concerted effort to analyze the pros and cons of adoption so as to make the best decision possible. The staff at Adoption Choices of Arizona can help walk you through these feelings offering support and counseling both during the adoption process and post-placement.
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