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A New Year, a New You, Celebrating Yourself After Adoption Placement

By Eric Somarriba

A new year means new opportunities to grow and a potential fresh start. Especially after a year of hard choices, a new year is a perfect time to set goals and begin anew. For birth mothers, a new year after an adoption can be an avenue for healing and finding a new focus. After placing your baby for adoption nearby, you’ll likely be feeling a whirlwind of different emotions. Your love for your child may still feel strong, which often leads to grief and loss. While everyone copes in a different way, one of the best ways to begin healing is proper self-care. When you care for yourself and try to do better, it goes a long way in personal growth and healing. A new year is a great time to begin putting these practices into effect, which is what this article is for. 

Adoption Choices of Arizona is a private adoption agency with over a decade of experience in facilitating successful Arizona adoptions. We specialize in helping birth mothers in difficult circumstances and strive to create a positive foundation for a happy life. The effects of an adoption don’t end once it’s signed, and we’re here to support you in the aftermath.

Physical Self-Care After Adoption

Physical self-care is more than just exercise, although that is a part of it. Doing physical activities multiple times a week often improves your mood and lowers anxiety. It doesn’t have to be intense exercise either, even something as simple as walking can be effective. Beyond exercise, there are other ways to care for yourself physically. Eating and sleeping well are simple but effective ways to stay healthy and feel good from day to day. When you feel well physically it can set the path to improving any aspect of life. Furthermore, physical self-care is key to improving your mood and lowering your stress levels. Exercise can lead to more confidence in yourself as you become more fit. While the aftereffects of child adoption are normally more emotional, don’t neglect yourself and your body.

Emotional Self-Care

The adoption process can be deeply emotional from beginning to end, and so this kind of self-care is vital. There are many different techniques to choose from, but here are a few. If you feel yourself bottling up your emotions that you can’t share, try journaling. It’s a way to vent those feelings while still keeping them private if you’re not ready to share yet. You can use a physical journal or even just a notes app.

In addition, meditation is another method of emotional self-care. It comes in many different forms, but each is to give you a calm sense of mind. There are guided meditations available online and through different apps. Some are guided thought exercises while others can be as simple as breathing exercises. If you feel different thoughts swirling in your mind, meditation can help quiet it and allow you to center yourself.

Finally,you can seek professional help if you feel you need it. Professional therapists are ready to help and offer different strategies and goals. As a part of the adoption plan you create with us we’ll connect you to free counseling that’s available anytime. They can see how you’re feeling and offer help from a more objective perspective. With therapy, you’ll feel less alone, and you’ll know someone out there is ready to listen. . Altogether, emotional self-care can help you on the road to finding peace with yourself after your adoption. You can find new ways to cope and accept yourself.

Spiritual Self-Care

Spiritual self-care comes in many forms, but it often begins with religious beliefs. Regardless of your religion,  you can improve your mental health with prayer. It can be similar to meditation, where you can find guided prayers, or you can simply pray however you feel. You can find a sense of security and that you’re being listened to, which can bring a sense of calm. But spiritual self-care doesn’t necessarily need to center on religion.

Alternatively, yoga is a combination of physical and spiritual exercise meant to link your body and mind. Beyond the physical benefits, many use yoga to decrease stress and center themselves in the here and now. It’s easy to consume yourself in the past after going through an unplanned pregnancy and an adoption. Or maybe you’re concerned about a future without your child. By centering yourself and staying in the present, you can find at least a temporary sense of peace. Whichever you choose, spiritual self-care can work wonders in finding what calms you and brings you peace. 

Social Self-Care After Adoption

While going through any difficult time, it’s important not to be alone. It’s easy to feel that way as a birth mother, but there are avenues of support out there waiting to help. There are support groups for birth mothers both in-person and online designed to help other birth mothers in this situation. They can share their own experiences and offer the self-care techniques they used to recover. You’ll know you’re far from the only one who has gone through this. As a result, you may even find new, strong relationships you wouldn’t have made otherwise. 

Set New Goals After Your Adoption

Finally, a new year is a great time to set new goals. Another way to care for yourself is to grow and achieve what you want. These goals can be academic, professional, or personal, but it’s important to work towards something. You can set long-term or short-term goals while tracking your progress. No matter how small or slow progress may feel, you’re still always moving towards your goal. Ultimately, accomplishing these goals can boost your confidence and feel like you’re still succeeding and growing.

Self-Care With Adoption Choices of Arizona

Adoption can be an emotionally taxing process, so please take the necessary steps to take care of yourself. Simply learning about how from an article like this is already progress and we know you’ll come back stronger. Self-care comes in many forms, and there is a practice out there that will help you. In the end, it’ll take time, but you’ll find peace soon enough.

If you need pregnancy help or want to look for an adoption nearby, contact our adoption agencies in Arizona. Adoption Choices of Arizona is ready to help birth mothers in distress by providing a safe environment. We’ll work to support you and reach the best possible outcome for you and your child.