Reasons Parents Give Their Babies Up for Adoption
When a woman places her baby up for adoption, she isn’t making the choice to give up. Instead, she’s choosing a life for her child and she’s placing her baby with a loving family. The decision for a mother or birth parents to place a baby up for adoption isn’t always simple. Nevertheless, it is an act of love that put a child’s needs ahead of their own desires.
There’s often a question of “why”. Why do mothers or parents choose to place their child for adoption? Here are a few common reasons:
Lack of Resources or Support – birth parents or a single parent may place a baby for adoption if they lack the financial means to raise a child and may not be aware of resources available to low-income families. Parents may feel that a child deserves a family who can offer more financial stability.
Abuse and/or Sexual Assault – if a woman is in an abusive relationship or environment, she may not want her baby to experience the related hardships, particularly if she doesn’t receive support. In this same realm, perhaps a woman, tragically, became pregnant after a sexual assault and cannot bear the idea of raising the assailants child.
Disability – one or both parents may have a physical or mental disability that makes raising a child difficult without outside support.
Single Parenting is Undesirable – a birth mother may choose adoption because she doesn’t want to be a single parent. She may also make this decision if the birth father is unwilling to take custody of the baby or offer financial and/or moral support after the baby’s birth. A birth mother may choose adoption for financial or moral reasons stemming from the lack of a two-parent household with an invested partner.
Birth Mother’s Age – a birth mother may feel that her age gives her baby an unfair disadvantage. A woman who becomes pregnant during her teen years, for example, may choose adoption if she feels as if she cannot take on the responsibility of being a parent at such a young age. A pregnant teen who wishes to graduate from high school and go to college may conclude that this endeavor would prove too difficult if she keeps her baby, especially if her school doesn’t offer a teen parenting program with a daycare. On the other hand, a woman who becomes unexpectedly pregnant later in life may fear the sacrifice of her lifestyle or career if she keeps the baby. An older woman may also choose adoption if she wants her baby to have younger parents who can better keep up with the physical demands of raising a child.
Culture, Morals or Religion – some cultures and religious faiths disapprove of having a child out of wedlock, so a woman may feel she must place her baby up for adoption instead of be a single mother. A birth mother with an unexpected or undesired pregnancy may hold the belief that abortion is wrong and choose adoption instead. Birth parents from some cultures may place a baby up for adoption if they prefer one gender over another.
She wants to give another family a child – there are many hopeful parents out there waiting to add a child to their life through adoption. For women who find themselves unexpectedly pregnant and unable to raise their children, they can make parenthood dreams come true in a way no one else can. While placing a child for adoption is certainly a huge sacrifice, it’s also an incredibly selfless move that can bring happiness and joy in helping someone else’s dream of being a parent come true.
Finally, most prospective birth mothers have one similar reason for choosing adoption for their baby: unconditional love. As much as it hurts to make this sacrifice, they know that adoption is the best choice for themselves and their baby. It’s their love for their child that motivates them to make this decision; and their desire for their baby to have a happy, healthy life. Adopted children know they are loved in their birth mother’s decision, as it’s one of the most selfless things a woman could choose to do.